Recently I was in a restaurant and overheard a little girl of about 6 or 7 years of age, ask the waitress what had happened to her finger. Apparently the waitress had a bandaid on one of her fingers and the little girl was curious. I smiled as I listened to the waitress explain that she had hurt it while cleaning tables earlier in the day and torn the finger nail, so she hid it with a bandaid because it was ugly.
After a while the little girl, seemingly very concerned with the wound, stopped the waitress again and asked her would the boo-boo get better. Again, the server assured the little girl that it was fine and there was no cause for concern.
What happened next really bothered me.
As soon as the waitress walked away, the grandmother of the little girl turned in her booth and said visciously, “You stop that! You stop asking about her hand! You don’t care about her finger and you are embarrassing her! Now sit down and shut your little mouth.”
I glanced out of the corner of my eye and watched that child hang her head and slide down into the corner of the booth, completely dejected. I wanted to stand up and slap that grandmother. My heart ached knowing that the girl was just curious and genuinely asked about the waitress in her innocence of limited knowledge.
The grandmother however proceeded to lambaste her granddaughter with a stream of accusatory remarks that I could tell had absolutely nothing to do with the girl, but with someone else, maybe the mother or father who were present at the table as well. Whatever her reasoning, it was wrong and I felt sorry for the whole situation.
A great error was made by the grandmother because she was treating a child as if they could think like an adult. That little girl has spent at most, 6 trips around the sun, 6 birthdays, Christmases, and Easters. And for half that time, she was an infant and toddler. Her brain has no where NEAR the information it needs to reason things out. That is why God created us with curiosity, it is the way we grow and evolve as humans as we mature. Yet, that grandmother transferred whatever burr under her saddle was, onto that child for no other reason than to release hatred that was overflowing in her heart towards another person or situation.
Romans 8:6 says, “For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.”
In contrasting the saved and unsaved this passage makes me think that we ought to look at ourselves long and hard and ask “Who am I living and behaving like?” Am I acting like someone who has not experienced the love and compassion of a merciful God in my own life when I did not deserve it? Or am I behaving like a heir of the King?
Are your words and actions the grim reaper to the spirit of another human being?
Are you so busy trying to prove to God that you are His prize child that you will push and shove others around in order to appear better?
Are you living carnally or being led by the Spirit?
All of us have areas to focus on when it comes to our treatment of others, I don’t care who you are or what your title is. We all can be down right nasty. But I ask you, for what? What part of our fellowship with God is so worth us turning a cold shoulder to someone just because we “think” they should be doing something differently? Who do we think we are?
Don’t squelch the curiosity and excitement of a new believer because you have grown distant and cold in your Baptist routine of doing things.
Don’t behave like you are unsaved.
You and I are heirs to the King of Kings. Our actions and our words both privately and publicly should reflect our new nature, not our old one.
Until Next Time, Lord willing,